Luke Storey joins Graham Dunlop and Darren Grimes for a wide-ranging conversation about his new book, A Horse Named Lonesome, and the deeper themes behind it: relational loneliness, addiction recovery, spirituality, and what it means to live with integrity. The discussion also turns into a practical and philosophical look at how modern life, social media, and public identity can either deepen or dilute real human connection.
This episode matters because it connects personal healing to a broader cultural problem. Luke, Graham, and Darren each bring their own experience with sobriety, transformation, and public-facing work, making this more than a book chat—it becomes a candid conversation about connection, attention, and staying aligned in a noisy world.
Key topics
- Luke explains that A Horse Named Lonesomeis about relational loneliness and existential separation, and that the book is built as a memoir-based transformational guide.
- He shares how the book came from a spiritual realization that his original motives were too self-serving, and how a deeper desire to help people made the writing process click.
- The conversation digs into why books still matter in an age of transient digital media—as a permanent record, a slower form of wisdom, and a medium people return to repeatedly.
- Luke describes how his own story runs through the book, including birth trauma, isolation, addiction, and the practices and teachings he derived from those experiences.
- Graham relates his own struggle to turn a recovery story into a book, moving from a vague “program” idea toward a memoir structure, and feeling stuck in the editing and motivation stages.
- Darren contrasts his own nonfiction-style books with memoir writing, noting that a focused information book is easier than writing about your own life.
- Luke opens up about addiction beyond alcohol, including nicotine, coca leaf, and ambil, and how dependency can show up in many forms, from substances to habits and spending.
- A major theme is the challenge of public life: Luke talks about the loneliness of being seen, the weirdness of being recognized, and how fame can make it hard to know who is sincere.
- The group explores how the modern world creates a fake version of connection through phones and social media, while genuine intimacy requires physical presence, discernment, and effort.
- The conversation moves into integrity, “selling out,” and why Luke refuses deals or promotions that would damage his self-respect, even if they offered short-term gain.
- Luke and the hosts connect loneliness to the current cultural moment, including polarization, post-COVID social distrust, and the feeling that many people are less willing to face uncomfortable truths.
- The episode closes on a spiritual note: Luke frames loneliness and separation as a case of mistaken identity, arguing that we are not just bodies or personas but expressions of something larger.
Timestamps
00:00 – Introduction to Luke Storey and A Horse Named Lonesome
01:17 – How the book came together after years of resistance
03:57 – Why books still outlast podcasts and digital media
06:26 – Luke’s memoir structure, birth trauma, and recovery themes
08:33 – Graham’s struggle to turn his recovery story into a book
10:22 – Darren contrasts memoir writing with information-based books
11:29 – Addiction in many forms: nicotine, habits, and dependency
14:20 – The challenge of compressing a lifetime into one readable book
17:43 – Where the title A Horse Named Lonesome came from
19:32 – Loneliness, success, and shrinking social circles
21:24 – The strain of being a public figure and always being “on”
23:12 – Fame, useful reach, and why Luke is glad he never got famous
24:06 – Lessons from 15 years working in Hollywood with celebrities
26:28 – Fewer, deeper relationships versus many shallow ones
27:01 – Does modern work leave any room for reflection and growth?
28:26 – The system, contemplative life, and attention as the new store of value
30:17 – Why entrepreneurship is not the easy path people assume
35:30 – Kids, legacy, and how childlessness changed Luke’s motivation
37:47 – What “selling out” means now and where Luke draws the line
39:33 – The one PR pitch Luke refused: promoting a COVID narrative
41:30 – Integrity, authenticity, and the cost of compromise
42:49 – Why Allison’s intuition matters in Luke’s relationships
45:53 – Loneliness in the modern era: more connected, less intimate
47:13 – Losing basic social skills in a phone-dominated culture
49:36 – How book writing can temporarily erase your social life
50:35 – Why real connection requires physical presence and trust
51:39 – Contact at the Cabin and the value of in-person gatherings
54:03 – Using digital reach to bring people into real-life community
55:31 – The post-pandemic fault line and the need for community
57:08 – Truth seekers, authority, and why many people prefer comfort
59:21 – Finding like-minded people who want deeper conversations
63:07 – Luke’s spiritual view of identity, oneness, and separation
65:02 – Why he sees evil as disconnection from love, not a standalone force
65:52 – Where to find Luke, his book, and his podcast
67:54 – Canadian government, freedom, and the trucker protest
70:04 – Outro, show updates, and supporter shoutouts
